Bonded in Freedom ...with Love

“A bee can feel the flower’s fragrance from miles away. The flower has just bloomed , but the bee has already come rushing. Scientists are trying to find out how bees find their way? It is a super sense and it is nothing but love . You have to be very careful with the things you love , because they are going to decide your destiny.” – Sri Raj Bhowmik 

The flower just blossomed & the bee was attracted …and they fell in love…It is a well known fact that  when a couple falls in love, the world is never the same for them again. There is a lot of unconditional giving & sharing which happens during the initial period of courting, and this  makes them believe that that they shall live happily ever after… All seems like a picture perfect setting of a movie made in Hollywood  and long term vows are taken by the couple thereafter.
However , more than often, it has been observed by various stalwarts dealing in couple relationships, that so is not the case…It starts very well ,as the cupid has just struck &  the world feels like a  garden, for the couple in love , but, this garden of love slowly begins to wither as the individual sense of freedom, which is main pre- requisite of a happy couple relationship,  takes a back seat. It is curtailed by high expectations, conditions set on love , high bench mark for the partner behavior and judgmental living. Poor love takes a hiding and the “I am so much in love with you”, changes its form to “ I am just tolerating you .” 

Then begins the mad chase for happiness & love in the world outside. In this chase, to find solutions to happy living , one easily gets attached to material things in life or  plays the sacrificial lamb by constantly adjusting, managing , trying to live up to the bench mark set by the partner.Whatever it is , the fact remains that one is just running away from the true self .  In this  process of running away... eating binges / diets, drowning  in loud noises & consumption of alcohol in pubs & discos, short vacations on week ends, going abroad for a change , visiting temples three times a day , organizing bhajan Evenings, joining  a hobby class etc . happens and when all this does not fetch happiness .. one might enter into a new relationship in order to get a fresh feeling of the so called "love" or one might just walk out of the present realtionship  too... However, the sense of Freedom & happiness  still remains illusive though.

“We are waiting for someone to introduce us to our own inner world. We stay with our inner-world in the same house , but as distant neighbours ; neighbours whom we donot care about". – Sri Raj Bhowmik-

Isn’t this the case in the relationship that we have with our own selves too ?..We become distant neighbours….and when the same status mirrors in our partner/couple relationship , we run away, as we cannot face the scary image of our inner self. Yes, the status of our relationship with our partners is a mirror image of our relationship with self. We do not ever feel successful in any relationship and that’s ..because , we have still not faced our own selves, in its stark form. Till one bonds & connects with ones true & real self..no other real relationship can be formed. A relationship with self is the highest of all relationship & that is completely bonded in freedom ..with love. It is definitely not a hope less situation when one goes through a difficult phase in the most intimate relationship. This pain is trying to teach  a major lesson in life. Its telling you to look into one self …One shall find love there. 

That’s “the Meeting Point", as phrased by Sri Raj Bhowmik.. where One meets oneself in silence ....

...."Remember that , ‘the quality of your life is the quality of your communication to yourself. What you say to others and the way you treat others is important. But, even more important is what you say to yourself and how you behave with yourself.”..Sri Raj Bhowmik....And when we do that regularly, we look into our true self too ..and thats where we are free , happy & strongly bonded in  love. That's the inner peace centre which resounds in unconditional love for self &  whoever comes in touch with such a grounded & free self .... is bonded in freedom with love..forever..!! The same can be experienced at the "CORPORitual "BE -ING Happy " wellness course , where the focus is to "move beyond chasing happiness to choosing happiness"...1 

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